Remote Life: What Not To Say To The Blogger In Your Life

Remote Life: What Not To Say To The Blogger In Your Life

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Are you a blogger or freelancer? The remote life is often difficult for outsiders to understand. Here are 10 things that bloggers are tired of hearing.

Hard To Grasp Life Concepts: Children, Travel, and Remote Life 

Has anyone told you that being childless in your 30’s might be one of the hardest life choices that you face?

You will come across hardships in your 30’s that no one will ever warn you about, except for maybe Bridget Jones. For one, if you are a childless woman who either cannot have kids or chooses not to procreate, everyone around you will whisper, question, and judge. You become an enigma—an evil spritely boozer but also some sort of magical and free sorceress with time and money for luxuries like yoga and travel. People dislike you and approach you warily. Some envy you. Others, thank god, could care less.

All the while, you slowly drown in a sea of pregnant friends and baby showers.  I swear babies just start falling from the sky. You suddenly gain status as a baby hater and heartless monster. You obviously don’t know how to talk to or treat someone else’s kids. God forbid you are a storytime librarian or become a freelancer.  Remote life adds one more check to the evil box.

I imagine an equal fate awaits those who have yet to choose a life partner or buy a house. And quite frankly, there isn’t enough wine in the world to get me through those awkward conversations where suddenly a stranger is asking my fertility schedule or questioning what type of spawn of Satan I am for not giving my mother grandkids. Are my husband and I getting divorced? Gosh forbid I eat a burrito—pat, pat, maybe I am showing?! Nope, just colitis. Sorry to disappoint.

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Remote Life: Freelancers, Digital Nomads, and Business Bloggers receive just as many dirty looks

Even worse, your 30’s is flagged as the zenith of career stability.  One or two jobs, imprisonment until you retire or die—whichever happens first, is the golden rule. Those in skyscraper office chairs look down with ugly faces at the freelancers, wanderers, bloggers, and digital nomads.  People who are willing to risk thinking outside of the norm. These taboo professions scream lazy, lost, and hippie to the untrained eye.

But these careers are what happen when one day you almost slap a snide, miserable new boss in the face after years of endless hard work and bullshit. You decide you deserve so much better, and you want more.  No longer a slave to the desk, 3-hour commutes, and homeless men cursing you out for disturbing their public library nap on the floor, passion leads you to freedom and entrepreneurship. A risk-taking and adventurous life many will never understand.

Leaving behind the steady 9-5 to blog and write

Imagine telling loved ones that you quit your Masters-degreed-profession because all you want to do is read, write, travel, and practice yoga. You want to be fulfilled and happy.   You want to be YOU. Luckily for me, I have a supportive group who thought all of this was perfect for me.

I received cards, starter gifts, and even funds. I am so lucky there. In my mind, I would make money blogging, turn my blog into an LLC, sell digital products (courses and travel guides), and freelance.  I also have narrowed my eyes on yoga teacher certification much further down the road.

Goddess Pose Armed: I am a Smithie and a Fulbright with an MLIS—I’d say I’ve done pretty well for myself. I even landed a husband, house, and 4 cats that adore me.  I spent over 12+ years working in schools, non-profits, and the public library not to mention an additional 6 in high school washing dishes and developing your photos.

Judging eyes on the world of the remote lifestyle

However, when I announced my blogging decision to friends, some were just schmucks. Mind you, I went to an entitled, elitist all women’s college, which is part of the problem.

I’ve heard everything from, “well, good for you if you think that really brings meaning to your life” to “how is retirement?” In fact, I just attended a party recently where everyone stood around and announced that I was not working. Must be nice to travel and lay around home all day. I smiled, debated saying something, and casually took a sip of my beer.

Call it shell shock or deciding I don’t have to explain or defend myself to anyone. In your 30’s you really could give 2 foxes about what people think. I mean, I guess the sometimes 8-14 hour days I spend working on my business isn’t really work. Said. No. One. Ever.

What remote life really means 

Anyone who is a blogger or in a unique profession like travel writing, working remotely, teaching online, freelancing, or even just writing a book already faces 100 other challenges: Time management, a quiet space, unsteady paycheck, long hours, self doubt, and sometimes not being able to separate work and home life.  Read more about maintaining a healthy blogger lifestyle.

Even on my off time, I find myself working on blog related tasks. Don’t get me wrong, bloggers reap the benefits of making our own schedule, being our own damn bosses, picking projects that we love, working with people who we respect, and wearing leggings all day. However, sometimes the challenges outweigh the perks.

At the end of the day, I love what I do—but what bloggers don’t need in their already stressful lives are others making it worse with uneducated, jealous, and downright cruel comments and judgments. I’ve never compared the importance of my job as a librarian or program manager for the nonprofits to someone else’s executive assistant job, the mailman, or your corporate life (which is NOT for me).  You shouldn’t either. As one of my good Fulbright friends said, “I am glad that I only have my life to live.” Amen.

With that said, just like women who look questionably pregnant, here are 10 things you should never say to or ask the blogger in your life:

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10 Blogging Myths and Remote Life (Crushed)

  1. It must be nice not to work. Retirement at age 30 sounds good to me. I wish we could all do that.

One day I will write a post about what my day looks like as a writer and blogger. It starts at 7:30 AM and ends around 10:30/11PM. My day is of course segmented with breaks for cooking, lunch, working out, and chores. The gist of my day is spending a few hours scheduling out social media for Instagram, Twitter, Pinterest, and Facebook Business.  Tailwind alone–which is essential for blog traffic–takes me a few hours.

Then, I usually spend a few hours engaging in FB blogging groups to share, promote, answer questions, and network. I’ll spend the rest of the morning and late afternoon writing blog posts, which of course involves researching keywords, evaluating SEO, slipping in affiliate links and products, linking my own relevant articles, and creating pins for Pinterest. The rest of my night is spent responding to my full inbox with requests to review and guest post. Bloggers want to join my group boards or have questions.

The work above doesn’t account for peeking around at freelance jobs, studying others’ blogs, taking blogging courses, and pitching to brands and sponsors.  I have a lot to learn still. Plus, I have a ton of website maintenance.  I love self-hosting with Siteground–but plugins need updating and caches clearing.  Old posts need love, I need fresh pins, my homepage is always changing, and there are new features that I want to add.  I also want to create sellable digital products.

Basically, I could sit at my computer for 4-6 hours straight and not even notice.  Somehow, I don’t think this is how I imagined ‘retirement.’ Oh, wait, because it’s not.

  1. Are you still working on that little fun hobby of yours?

To be fair, many people blog for fun. Some even blog for fun and still bring in a little cash as a side hustle. I love hobby bloggers, and they are the majority of the blogs I read and comment on each week. I used to be one of them. When I lived in Indonesia, I blogged for a full year about what it was like to be a teacher in a small village school. I didn’t worry about SEO, page views, or even care what my audience wanted. That blog was for me, and I loved it.

The Uncorked Librarian is not a hobby blog. It is part of my LLC.  You can read more about forming an LLC in Florida for bloggers. The Uncorked Librarian is monetized and is my avenue to make money blogging and also start a potential freelancing business.  Freelancing as in writing travel articles, editing, and helping authors publicize their books. My blog is my baby, and it is my career. If I did have a real baby, just like I wouldn’t want you cooing at it, please don’t cutesy talk my blog. It bites.

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  1. I wish I could get paid to lay around in my pjs all day watching Netflix.

I do love my Lula leggings, and you can bet I don’t put on makeup or straighten my hair to hide behind a computer screen all day. Netflix only happens on a lunch break or after work is done. P.S. my back hurts and my carpal tunnel is acting up from the 5-8 hours of typing I just did. I do love that I can work anywhere, but remember this also requires focus and a productive space.

Even as I write this post, I am sitting on a flight to CT. I really wish that mother f’ing kid behind would stop screaming and that woman would stop chomping on chips.  I cannot concentrate, and if I don’t get this done, I’m missing a post this week.  Buhhh bye stats.  Any brands out there? Can you please send me a pair of noise canceling headphones?

  1. Good for you if you think blogging is actually a meaningful ‘career’ and makes a contribution to the world.

What the hey hoooo? I always wanted to ask the person who said this to me how his/her career contributes meaning because I could be equally baffled.  Just sayin’.

Instead of defending blogging, here is why my blog is meaningful to me and hopefully contributes something special to the world:

  • I take pride that part of my blog is about bringing light to invisible things: illness, new books, blogging as a career, and unique travels. I love supporting and working with indie authors to get their books out in the public eye—especially when many are overlooked.  These authors work hard and need a venue to promote their greatness.

 

  • I lived abroad and travel with Anthony Bourdain in my heart and soul. I don’t want to be another tourist–and don’t want you to be one either.  Watching the world self-destruct breaks my heart. I want to share how to travel sustainably and with compassion and empathy. Not everyone can explore the world, but I hope to take my readers away with me just like Parts Unknown explored the multidimensional nature of the world that we live in.  History.  Culture.  War.  Love.  Food.  Community.  Helping people plan their getaways and seek world educations mean everything to me.

 

  • I grew up where you had to pick a 9-5 job. Teacher, doctor, librarian, lawyer.  Definitely not a bad attitude, but also not for me.  P.S. I do have strong work values.   I never had the opportunity to be true to myself or explore nontraditional routes.  Health insurance’s bitch, that’s me!  As times are changing, I don’t want younger generations to become trapped in careers that they never wanted. Helping others blog, write, and think differently will make the world a bigger and much more innovative place.
  1. Coming from your background, I could see how blogging would be a worrisome venture to admit to other people

My background?!? For me, personally, this comment bitch slapped me in the face. Yup, I went to good schools and even scored a prestigious fellowship. Shocked myself, even. But I left that experience humble and not entitled and bitchy. My big nose actually points straight ahead—I know, it’s hard to tell.

Since when has writing, learning, and becoming an entrepreneur something to be ashamed of? Blogging takes guts. You have to put yourself out there, and some will eat you alive. With blogging, if you don’t blog, grow, and learn, you won’t succeed. You are 200% in control of your success and fate.  Creativity and possessing intuition are essential. Plus, there is no one around to discipline you or tell you what to do. How is this not anything but admirable and terrifying?

From the top of a building: I AM A BLOGGER; here me roar, proudly.

  1. Did they pay you for that article? How much did they pay you? Wait, you can actually make money doing that?

Are we in Indonesia? In Indo, everyone would ask me how much I weighed, how much money I made, and even if I had sex before marriage. In what profession is it ever acceptable to ask someone their salary?

Nope, I don’t always get paid for guest posts. Sometimes I receive compensation in other forms. And yes, sometimes I get paid. I am buddies with bloggers who bring in $7,000-$10,000 a month.  Lets just leave it there.

  1. Maybe I should do what you do. I mean, all I have to do is post pretty pictures on Instagram every day, right?

Yup, that is ALL you have to do. Oh, and download somebody else’s presets on Lightroom. Let the cash pour in–might only even take a day.

Not entertaining this one anymore except with a big eye roll and gag gesture.

  1. So what, you spend 1-2 hours a day ‘working?’

See above.  I know people who freelance full-time and then add in an additional 80 hours a month blogging.  Most people blog and freelance more than a full-time job.  In the beginning, you can damn well bet that they are working for free until they start growing.  Just like a business, you start in the red and must climb your way out.

  1. Did you read that random blog post I sent you? 

Not your post.  I never read or share those.  Just everyone else’s.

  1. Are you looking for a job?

Oh, FUCK.

Blogging For Work

If you are a blogger, I’d love to know which numbers sound familiar to you.  What have other people commented about your line of work.  How do you handle the judgment?

If you are friend or family member of a blogger–or someone just scrolling by–I hope this gives you a little more insight into the life of digital nomads and remote workers.  Have you said one of the above to your friends?

The remote life is not easy, and bloggers need your support.  Support not only by using our affiliate links and commenting on and reading posts but also through encouragement and understanding. Blogging is a career.

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36 Comments

  1. October 19, 2018 / 8:35 am

    Amen! Can I just say that you are absolutely rockin’ it! There is so much judgement out there in the world from so many angles… Staying true to who you are isn’t always easy but honestly, those who dare to do what is right for them, even if it is outside the accepted norm, will live a life waaayyy beyond what those snide, whispering know-it-alls will ever experience. No matter what you do, someone will always judge… Luckily for us, we can do whatever the hell we want anyway! Rock on, girlfriend! 😁

    • Christine
      Author
      October 20, 2018 / 6:09 pm

      Aw, thank you so much! I really appreciate that!

      It is definitely hard to stay true to yourself in this day and age (man, I sound so old fashioned with that expression lol). I am SO glad that the norm is slowly changing too.

      I completely agree with you: people always judge. They always have opinions that they feel the need to share with everyone–Don’t get me wrong, I love getting feedback and even hearing different points of view but sometimes you just want to say, OMG leave it alone!! Not everything is meant to be judged.

      I am so grateful that we have control of our own fates and careers. I feel lucky and fortunate for this new blogging opportunity. Every single day, I wake up grateful and appreciative. I hope to be more successful. I refuse to give up so I know that I will get there with or without all of the support I sometimes (but not always) crave. I do have a GREAT bunch of supportive people, including my friends, husband, and family. They are the best!

      You are rocking it too! I am glad to be going through this experience together.

  2. October 19, 2018 / 9:31 am

    It’s crazy how people feel the need to judge others for their life decisions. I say you do you and don’t worry about what others think! Awesome post.

    • Christine
      Author
      October 21, 2018 / 2:25 pm

      Thanks! I completely agree. I definitely don’t even have time to worry as a blogger lol!!!

  3. October 19, 2018 / 10:32 am

    This post was almost painful to read (as a blogger), but in the absolute perfect way because everything in here needed to be said! Thank you so much for writing this to enlighten the world as to what we actually do all day! Tbh, I want to monetize my blog, but I am still not there yet (mainly because I spend too much damn time and energy on the gram), but I will definitely be checking out your other post about turning your blog into a business. Thank you, thank you, thank you for sharing this important piece!

    • Christine
      Author
      October 21, 2018 / 2:34 pm

      Thank you! I know you 200% understand, and I appreciate that so much.

      I am posting a brand new article this week about easy to add affiliate programs for newer bloggers looking to monetize. I am by no means a pro yet, but I have been learning over the course of the year. There are some simple programs to at least get you going.

      I definitely feel you about the time crunch. I can’t tell if my strategy of growing everything slower together is amazing or hurting me. If I could focus on just one platform, it would grow much faster. I am also debating cutting back to one blog post a week and the occasional second so that I can spend time finishing cleaning up old pages and learning how to make the most profit for my time. I work so hard, and I would like to see that reflect just slightly more in income.

      I need to better monetize my IG–I was waiting for 5,000 followers but am getting restless.

  4. October 19, 2018 / 3:55 pm

    Excellent piece Christine! In this day & age, it’s honestly surprising that so many people have a negative view of taking the plunge to blog as a profession. Hopefully, maybe sometimes you can give people the benefit of the doubt & assume that they’re only asking probing or doubtful questions because they care (maybe not haha!). I don’t know that I’ll ever be looking to become a career blogger, but I sure as heck admire all of the women who have worked so hard to make it happen for themselves. (I’m going to have to start using the “two foxes” expression you mentioned! :’) haha)

    • Christine
      Author
      October 21, 2018 / 2:50 pm

      I think maybe because I’m in my almost mid-30’s, my immediate world is a little less open to freelancing and remote work like blogging. Different times, different ways of being raised…you know. To also age myself: I didn’t have a computer or cell phone until college. Even then, it was a FLIP PHONE. GAHAHAHAHA. Today, elementary school kids have tablets, laptops, and phones. Digital times have progressed SO fast. I definitely think the college age and 20-somethings might get slightly different responses and support to blogging than me–you’ll have to tell me ; ) Which is actually a good point since my audience is a tad younger than me. Hmmm, they are probably all wondering what the heck I am talking about. Oh dear!

      I definitely try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, and thanks for suggesting their good intentions. I appreciate the questioning, caring, and sincerely interested gaggle of friends that I have. Some probing I don’t mind, if it is not meant to be malicious. I’ll definitely take your advice to heart, and assume the best first. I think we all take stabs sometimes when we don’t understand, are jealous, or are unhappy in our own lives. Circumstances and life experiences also affect the way people approach others—so I should probably keep that in mind too. Some might just be worried I am going to go poor and hungry. Or get trolled. Or flop. Which are all possibilities…

      I admire SO MUCH the women who are blogging and succeeding. Right now, I feel like I am 25% of what they do, and they are fantastic! You are a great blogger too!

  5. Hilary
    October 19, 2018 / 11:07 pm

    My friend recently referred me to your blog and I’m so glad she did! I quit my job a few months ago and bought a sailboat with my husband so we can take a year off (hopefully more) and travel. I’m working on putting a blog together to document our adventures. I started telling a few close friends and family about the blog and I have already started to get these kinds comments. I’m not trying to make it my career and my blog isn’t even live yet! I guess anyone that steps outside of what society tells us we should be doing at a certain age is questioned, sometimes rudely. The last time I got one of these comments I just put a smile on and reminded myself that I’m doing what I want with my time and money that I worked hard for, and I’m only going to move forward in a positive way, which might mean not talking to that person for a while. Thank you for posting this. Can’t wait to read more from you!

    • Christine
      Author
      October 21, 2018 / 3:02 pm

      Hey Hilary,

      I am so glad that you found me! You’ll have to let me know which friend referred you so that I can thank him/her. I also apologize for the late response. I am usually just a tad better about responding to blog comments within a day or two, except I’ve been MIA for most of October. EKKK!!! But I am catching up now and so happy to see your comment. Thank you SO much!

      When you start your blog, please send me the link so that I can follow along on your exciting new adventures. THAT IS SO COOL!!! I think–don’t quote me–that Aggie from Travel in Her Shoes–started her adventures from sailing around the world too. Now she is an ultra famous Instagrammer. I admire anyone who takes the chance to follow their dreams. Life is too short not to. Even if you blog just for fun, it is still for you.

      You definitely have to do you and live your life the best way you can to be happy and healthy. I wish others supported that. It’s so messy to think that we can easily tell friends that we are getting a MLIS degree or becoming a librarian but that we feel afraid to say: I want to be a blogger. Blogging makes me truly happy and allows me to grow and explore in a way that I couldn’t before. I hope the people around you embrace and support your choices–even if it takes a little time. People are even crazier when they hear that you left your job just to travel–I know a ton of people who have done just that. I love it! I think that’s admirable and so much fun! The comments they field, though….

      I lost a friend pretty young to a surprise tumor (complete shock and fast), and I have other friends with life threatening illnesses. Once I was diagnosed with severe ulcerative colitis, I just knew that I had to appreciate every day and make the life I wanted. Waiting for retirement is ridiculous when 1. That day may never come for many reasons and 2. I could be sick and unable to when I am older. Nothing is guaranteed and why wait if you can make your dreams and goals happen?

      Can’t wait to see your new adventure!

  6. October 20, 2018 / 11:47 pm

    OMG I love this post SO much. I feel like I’m going to tear my hair out every time someone calls my blog a “hobby”. Since I’ve recently finished grad school, people often ask me what I’m doing next. When I reply “I’m focusing on my blog biz”, many say something like “no, I mean a ‘real’ job” and I just give them blank stares in return. I really wish more people realized how much actual work goes into blogging. Seriously bookmarking this post to start texting to people who have said any of these things to me omg. Thank you SO much for posting
    KB

    • Christine
      Author
      October 21, 2018 / 3:18 pm

      RIGHT?! I actually just finished grad school too (MLIS–how about you?), and I’m like: don’t you think I semi-know what I am doing? I swear I’m not just chilling by the pool. And I have degrees!!!! Plus, I did have to work hard in grad school, undergrad, and the gazillions of jobs that I held my entire life.

      I wish there was a Master’s program for blogging. Maybe one day there will be?! I bet we’ll see something with this new wave of digital nomads, remote workers, and freelancers. I am dying to find a blogging conference in Orlando. I know they exist. I could afford to learn so much more. Maybe others would take the profession seriously too if there was more education, programs, and general knowledge. I don’t ever think the market will over saturate either. Not with so many people online these days.

      Thanks for reading and all of the support! I hope your blogging business blooms! I cannot wait to see where you go. Glad we are Twitter pals!

  7. October 21, 2018 / 1:31 pm

    Yes to all off this! I can definitely relate to this! Especially since I’ve NEVER wanted kids (I actually can’t deal with them, but that’s because I don’t like noise and also because every time I spend time around children I get so ill I’m convinced I’m dying).

    But back to blogging. Some people have been incredibly supportive. But quite a few people just don’t get it. What I’ve gotten quite a bit is that friends KNOW blogging is a viable career, but don’t understand why we’re so busy. Because we’ve started a business! If we had just opened a cafe, they wouldn’t question it but because we’re bloggers they seem to think NO WORK goes into that! Nevermind that some bloggers spend like 15 hours on one article, let alone all the editing, promotion, networking, reading, planning. And then there’s guest posting and searching for/writing for paying publications. Let alone having enough time to actually get enough material for all that (and your own blog!). Oh, and researching fucking Hashtags, editing photos and figuring out Pinterest! But you’re right, we don’t do anything…

    Don’t get me wrong, I love what I do. I just wish people thought before they spoke. And that friends who swore they’d subscribe and view and engage actually followed through!

    • Christine
      Author
      October 22, 2018 / 5:34 pm

      OMG you basically just wrote my blog post better than me, and I love it! LOL

      I actually love kids a lot–other people’s. I love my nieces and nephews, my former library story time kiddos, and my best friends have the greatest children alive. I get the occasional baby craze, but then I just think about the life that I want to have which doesn’t involved a family right now. We would have to give up and change a lot, which just isn’t me. I also never grew up dying to be a mom. Of course, having colitis and being on strong ass drugs with NO energy also kind of decides that for me anyway–which makes it a tad crazier that people close to us are up our behinds about not having kids. You just never know someone’s story. I hadn’t prepared for the backlash, though. I would never judge people having 10 kids or no kids. It’s 2018–kinda like changing your last name or not when you get married.

      I am so glad that you get IT about blogging. P.S. I despise those gosh damn hashtags—they are always changing, take forever, and do they even work? Unlikely. And you are right, it is impossible to understand how much time goes into blogging. I had no idea myself until I started. No. Idea. I love it, but I’ve never worked this hard.

      I think the most difficult thing for me right now is just stopping. Blogging is a job that has no end point. It’s not the library where you run a program and eventually it ends. Or, you find a book for someone and sign off. I could literally blog all day, fix up posts, rework my site, edit pics, and chat on social media ALL DAY. I have to verbally tell myself to STOP.

      I am so appreciative and lucky for the friends who follow my blog or at least SM accounts to check out my blog with topics that interest them. But, these AMAZING people are about 10% of my friend group. I don’t expect everyone to have the time to be supportive but a like on a FB post when YOU ARE ON FB ALL DAY OTHERWISE would be nice. lol People also told me they were subscribing and well…

      • October 29, 2018 / 9:27 pm

        Haha, I really didn’t! But thanks 🙂

        I find it so shocking that how people react to people not wanting kids. Like, it’s not your life, why does it matter what I do (or don’t do)! I’m not killing people or vandalising stores, so how are my decisions any of your business? I’ve known since I was a kid that I didn’t want kids. I’m so not a kid person. Apparently in preschool I used to play by myself because other kids were too loud. All my friends were older, and if given the choice/opportunity, I ALWAYS chose to hang out with adults over kids (sure my mother LOOOOVED that haha). But again, people can do what they want because it’s their life! We only get flack because we’re going against the grain, which is outrageous! Oh, and don’t get me started on the whole surname changing thing… that is a NEVER-ENDING battle with my husband’s family.

        So true, it’s so easy to just… keep going! For example, it’s now 1:30AM and I’m wide awake and working because, well, no one told me to go home? But despite the endless amounts of work (this is definitely the most time consuming job I’ve ever had), the worst days blogging, beat the worst days dying in an office. For me, at least. And like kids, if that’s not true for someone else, that’s totally fine!

        • Christine
          Author
          October 30, 2018 / 5:08 pm

          “I’m not killing people or vandalizing stores, so how are my decisions any of your business?” GAHAHA!!!! I think to some, it’s an even worse offense not to have children.

          I didn’t change my last name. It’s funny, though, because some people pretend–cough, cough–like I did…so cards and checks and such have a ton of different names for our household. LOL The idea of last names is pretty old fashioned too. We end up combining a household so lets just both hyphenate at least or leave it be.

          Growing up, I preferred adults too. I like to have meaningful and real conversations. My friends were mature or old–I agree!

          I was up way too late last night working on cleaning up some website categories that had been bothering me. I got really into it and am always overly productive at night–but then I couldn’t fall asleep. I seriously had some weirdo dreams about pinning my post too. Haunting. I would much rather be doing all of this than working in an office, though–agreed! Just having lunch when I want, making something healthy, and peeing when I need to is a HUGE step up in the world for me.

  8. October 21, 2018 / 5:55 pm

    Amen Christine, amen, amen. 7-12 sounds about right with breaks mixed in of course. We pro bloggers live this life. Meaning we give our lives to blogging. Must be nice, right? LOL….love this post.

    • Christine
      Author
      October 23, 2018 / 4:55 pm

      Thank you so much! I was going to bed last night and still tweeting around 11 PM, ahaha. It never ends! I dream of blogging at this point.

  9. October 21, 2018 / 8:17 pm

    Yes, YES, Y-E-S!! It’s funny, I blogged for years and did quite well but lost the love and passion for that first blog. I figured I’d never do it again. Here I am again, at the beginning of a whole new blog even though I know how much work it is!

    • Christine
      Author
      October 23, 2018 / 5:03 pm

      My first real blog was when I moved to Indonesia to teach. I think I was initially more successful with that blog than the one I am monetizing now LOL. More so because it was just for fun. I didn’t make pinnable images or insert affiliate links. SEO whatever. I had a nice following, but that was also before a gazillon professional blogs popped up.

      Once in awhile, I get frustrated or forget why I started. But so far, I always get over my glum by the next morning and remind myself that building a brand takes time. I am learning so much, and definitely dedicating hours of my day to something good.

      So here we both are lol! We got this!

  10. Nyssa
    October 24, 2018 / 11:00 am

    I completely agree with you, but I think one point is missing and that is informing those that are uninformed. When I first became a social worker, I continually heard “Are you going to take children away from their parents?” I wasn’t even working social services at the time! I had to inform people that social workers counsel, provide case management and yes, some work at DCF. This is the part that I feel is missing. When we say nothing it only perpetuates the stereotypes of different professions.

    • Christine
      Author
      October 26, 2018 / 6:21 pm

      I definitely feel you. When I was librarian everyone would ask if I got paid to read all day. They were dead serious too. Most didn’t know you needed a MLIS to officially be a librarian these days, and they had no idea the crap we dealt with. I think it was by far my most stressful job. The public also assumed we worked cushy government jobs with great pay and benefits. Those days died longgggg ago.

      I completely agree about saying something (my shortcoming for sure)—it is much better to say something. I usually do when it’s one on one or a more intimate setting. When we were home and I first announced my new career intentions, most people were stoked. I took sincere questions about the profession—as anyone in a new position would. A drinking party where people should kinda know or be paying attention—-ehhhh. I should get better.

  11. October 25, 2018 / 2:38 pm

    When I talk to anyone about blogging, especially people that just have no clue about this side of the world, their reaction is pretty much #6. They have no idea that this is actually a career choice and don’t understand how anyone can make money. I always say, well it’s kind of like running a newspaper or magazine, how do they make money?

    Totally relatable post, especially since you’re comparing to being childless. Something else people just don’t understand… not that its any of their business.

    Hugs. Thanks for continuing to write these amazing blog posts.

    • Christine
      Author
      October 26, 2018 / 6:08 pm

      Aw, thank you so much!

      Careers have progressed and drastically changed with technology over the past few years, anything goes these days. I wish 16-year-Old Christine had goals to be a travel writer. I don’t even think I knew traveling was a career until a few years ago.

      The not starting a family thing is seriously such a big deal in our lives. I had NO idea people would care, ask about it, and put pressure on us. It’s so wrong and just like WTF?! We get judged a lot. It just makes me sad and a little put off. I get people think we would be great parents—and I love that—but that’s our choice. And it’s somewhat of a choice…and a health driven choice too.

      Hope you are settling back from vacation. Can’t wait to see all the pictures and write ups 💕💕

  12. October 26, 2018 / 12:57 pm

    “I imagine an equal fate awaits those who have yet to choose a life partner or buy a house. And quite frankly, there isn’t enough wine in the world to get me through those awkward conversations where suddenly a stranger is asking my fertility schedule or questioning what type of spawn of Satan I am for not giving my mother grandkids.”

    This. THISSSS. I love my 30s so much but honestly I hate being treated like a freaking leper because I don’t want children and haven’t settled down. People need to mind their own damn business.

    • Christine
      Author
      October 26, 2018 / 5:53 pm

      A leper is exactly it!! This is 2018–we definitely do things a tad differently vs 50 years ago.

  13. October 28, 2018 / 4:31 am

    What a bloody good post, I love how open and honest you are about everything, its refreshing and paints a true picture of the shit a remote worker has to put up with from oblivious 9-5ers who think you cannot possibly work for yourself just blogging??? It made me laugh but unfortunately it is the ugly truth. Keep doing what you’re doing and smashing those goals!

    • Christine
      Author
      October 30, 2018 / 2:34 pm

      Thank you! I am sure you probably get your fair share of comments with your lifestyle, awesome van, and moving around. Wait until your wedding! LOL!! Or maybe you don’t see it as bad because it’s Europe–and I feel like most other places aren’t as crazy as the U.S. Girl, I am ready for a nap. P.S. You are killing it on IG!

  14. November 22, 2018 / 7:10 am

    As usual, I’m a little late to this party (I don’t think I’m signed up to get your updates…gonna change that once I’m done commenting!), but OMG, YES to pretty much everything you’ve said here. So many thoughts jumped out at me as I was reading this. The crucial ones:

    1. OMG, another woman who doesn’t have an inclination to have kids!! *throws arms around you and hugs ferociously* So many of my friends are having children, and while I love being Auntie CJ, I’m pretty sure I don’t want any of my own. My husband feels the same way. I love my/our life, and I honestly think that having children would not add happiness to it. We are still debating, but as I’m 35, I’m very well aware (and society keeps reminding me) that the window to make a decision is closing. But I’ve never had a desire to become a mother, and I kept hoping that biological need would come knocking on my door so I could finally make a “yes or no” decision about having kids — the indecision is the worst part. Still waiting…but perhaps I’m a little afraid to admit that my answer is actually “no” because of all the stigma it brings and the fact that, while it’s becoming more popular to remain childless, it’s still very much the road less traveled.

    2. Back to blogging. I recently saw a meme that said something like “Do something you love for a living…and you’ll work harder than you ever thought possible.” SO TRUE. I started planning my blog seven months ago and launched it five months ago, and I don’t think I’ve ever worked harder on something in my life. It is constant work, just as you said. Any days that I devote fully to blogging, I start early (hey, it was 6:30am on THANKSGIVING when I started writing this comment) and end late. I also could easily be glued to my seat for 4-6 hours without ever noticing; I’ll be too busy writing, SEOing, linking, photoediting, creating Pins, reading other blogs, commenting on other blogs, woefully checking my stats, brainstorming how to improve my stats, reading, jotting down review notes, creating recipes. And, since I cook as part of my blog, I gotta schedule time (in daylight hours) to cook and take photoshoots. And don’t get me started on the marketing stuff. If I ever make it big, first thing I’m doing is hiring a social media person to do it all for me, lol. And, my blog is still at the “hobby” stage — I don’t make money off it (yet), but the dream is to write and blog full-time. It seems so very far away. So, I am currently doing ALL this plus working a full 9-5 style job. Umm, I’M EXHAUSTED. But I’ve never been freaking happier. I have gotten more satisfaction out of writing these past 5 months than I have after nigh-15 years in the publishing industry that I work in. I’m fulfilled, I’m creative, I’m passionate, I have goals….they just don’t align with what some incompetent asswipe in corporate deems worthwhile. to the “company mission.” And I’m totally okay with that.

    3. I’m so sorry that you’ve encountered so little support for your blog from family and friends. That’s just awful, especially considering how great your work is. I mean, have they READ your blog? It’s fantastic. I love everything you write. How can someone see your work and not understand exactly why you are doing this?? I’m very lucky to have supportive family and friends when it comes to my blog. They love me and want me to be happy, but I also think a large part of it stems from the fact that most people I know are miserable in their careers and want out — but don’t see a way out. My blog is hopefully paving a way out, and they are supportive because they know what it is to have your soul die within you and not be able to do anything about it. Dramatic-sounding? Yes. The absolute truth? ALSO YES. I’m sure that if I were to quit my job and do this full-time, I might get some side-eye from people. I mean, even though most are supportive, some don’t comment at all about it or ask about how it’s going. I’m not quite sure what they think, and honestly, I don’t want to know. We can be friends without them being an avid reader and supporter of my blog — as long as they don’t openly dismiss it to my face. Then, we gonna throw down. 🙂

    Okay, I’ve written a freakin novel here, but I’m sorry/not sorry because, as usual, your post hit the nail on the head, and I had to comment on it. In summation: When it comes to your naysayers out there? EFF ‘EM. You do you, girl. Because you do it so damn well. And, if you’re happy and not hurting anyone, you keep right on doing it. We all should be so lucky as to find a secret to happiness. xoxo

    • Christine
      Author
      November 25, 2018 / 10:24 pm

      Fashionably late to the party makes a statement ; ) Just make sure to always bring some booze. My WP reader somehow decides which blogger friends it will show me and who gets left behind…all on its own. It doesn’t even notify me of my own post updates half of the time. A complete mystery–so even if you follow me, ya never know what you will get.

      1. I am 34 and we are still debating. I definitely have some health obstacles (severe Ulcerative Colitis) that are part of the decision making. Risking my health and life to have a cute little baby look like us isn’t something on the table most years. When my meds work, which hasn’t been long, I get these small, daring windows. Those windows are pretty fragile. But regardless, I’ve never ever grown up dreaming of having children. Adoption is also on the table when we are older. Right now, I am perfectly happy with our lives. We love to travel and even with cats, it gets hard to be completely ‘free.’ Kids would be way harder, and now my blog and website is my child. It requires SO much love and attention.

      2. I love your blog, and I definitely know how much time goes into it. Gosh, I mean you review books that you have to read first and cook and write recipes and travel and take pics and DO IT ALL. The work is rewarding and fun but also INSANE. I, too, spent Thanksgiving night working on pins and blogging tasks. All this weekend, I crammed away for at least 15-20 hours on social media and blogging–including guest posts and my own. The dream does seem far away at times, and I feel like I am slowly getting there. I saw so much progress this week after a lull that I am refreshed and encouraged. But, I’m still exhausted too. I love it, like you. I could not imagine producing your content with a full time job–kuddos to you. AND, thank you for taking time away from blogging to write this amazingly long and engaged comment on my own post. Thank you for taking the time to read my post. I’ve been so slammed lately, I forgot to reply to emails let alone engage with others’ content. I want to engage. I have barely kept up with my blog let alone reading bloggers I truly support. My goal for bed tonight was 10 PM, but here I am still going lol–and mostly because I wanted to check in on other’s blogs and comment on their posts. We all need love and comments.

      3. Thanks so much for all of your kind words and encouragement. Have a throw down with the haters. GAHAHA. YASSSS!!!! I think the more I ‘brag’ or at least tell people how I’m doing, the more they are starting to understand. We will see. I don’t care thatttttt much these days. The people that matter the absolute most are there cheering me on. Keep doing you too! Hope you had a great holiday.

  15. December 5, 2018 / 1:19 pm

    You know what? Even though I click “notify me of follow-up comments by email,” I am NEVER alerted to follow up comments. For your blog, and for most blogs that I comment on! I have been thinking lately that a lot of other bloggers kinda hate me because they never reply to my comments, so I looked up the posts I knew I commented on, and lo and behold, there were all these replies! They don’t (outwardly) hate me! Yay! But these blogs never tell me that!! ARGGG!! So, anyway, even when I CAN keep up with people’s blogs and commenting and all that, the blogs themselves are out to foil my good intentions! 😉

    It’s so good to talk to someone who knows how I feel–about kids/no kids, blogging, and the lot of it! 🙂 Though, to be fair, I think most of us who “haven’t made it yet” as bloggers all regularly and wonderfully commiserate together, haha. It’s so funny you say your blog is your kid. I was describing that same sentiment to my husband, and to my therapist, when talking about my novel and my blog. I was like, “I’ve never dreamed of motherhood. But I’ve dreamed of being a published author. Of writing every day. I want to devote my life to that instead of a child.” It’s so weird to feel like that about something that’s not human or animal, but it’s true. I just hope it all pans out in the end, lol! Like you said, the upswings are amazingly encouraging, but the downswings make you wonder why the eff you are neglecting your husband and cat for hours on end to edit photos and tweak word choice until your eyes are crossed, lol. It’s a gamble, but no different from how changing your life for a kid would be. I mean, it IS different–caring for a human being is a MASSIVE responsibility and I have the deepest respect for people who do that–but I just mean that any life-changing event includes taking risks and hoping you’re happy with what you’ve given up for what you’ve gotten out of it, in the end. And blogging has definitely been a life-changing event for me! In the best way possible. 🙂

    • Christine
      Author
      December 8, 2018 / 10:37 am

      I don’t always see follow up comments on others’ blogs either. It is completely hit or miss what my WP reader decides to notify me of. Once in awhile, I will go back and see if I missed something, but not always. I forget or get really busy. I am sure others understand since WP seems fickle for everyone.

      I definitely think that I had a baby in the shape of a blog. It takes up so much time and needs me 24/7. We were away this past week traveling around Germany and Belgium. According to the evil new app on Apple, I still managed to spend 4 hours a day on my phone. I was basically feeding greedy IG on trains, staying up incredibly late to tweet, and manually pinning at all hours of the day. I couldn’t ignore the baby or let it go hungry. In order to grow it, I have to spend lots of time and money on it, too. Even a full week off without a sitter, and it would be DEAD. I don’t want to piss off parents because what they do is also completely different (and I don’t want to downplay that), but in other ways, a business/book/blog are like a small child. And yes, they definitely fill up the time that a child would.

      I am the same way. I’d rather birth a published book that a child.

  16. December 11, 2018 / 11:08 am

    See, all of these reasons are why I don’t really tell anyone in my life that I have a blog. Granted, I don’t talk to a lot of people, to begin with, but yeah I doubt they would be accepting of the blog idea.

    • Christine
      Author
      December 11, 2018 / 12:25 pm

      It’s definitely hard for some people to grasp. The oddest thing happened the other day, though. I posted a somewhat ‘braggy’ post on my personal FB page about how well The Uncorked Librarian has been doing. My million Pinterest views…making money, etc. The post was technically more excited and shocked than braggy but still… AND suddenly all of these people were interested in TUL and more specifically how you could make money blogging.

      I still think that many assume you can write a casual blog, spend one hour a day writing a post, and boom you’ll make money. You won’t. They mistake hobby blog for business blog and they aren’t interchangeable by any means. I try to educate people about what it takes, but some think I play on social media for fun all day. Others completely get it, and I love them. I feel you.

      Thanks for following me on Pinterest. I have to check out your blog ; )

  17. January 23, 2019 / 10:41 pm

    The funny thing is, if you do everything the opposite way you’ll still have people complain. “How many kids do you have?!” and “Why would you start blogging when you are already a stay-at-home mom?”

    In college everone would be shocked when I said I was a math major, but then give a my roommate a condescending look when she said she was studying Elementary Education. That’s when I learned people will complain if you’re common or if you’re original, so why not be yourself.

    Apparently I missed this post back in October, so I just had to give my two cents!

    • Christine
      Author
      January 26, 2019 / 9:33 am

      Yes, that is equally true and kind of sad. People just love to add their 2 cents and judge. One of my friends always used to say, “I am glad that I only have my life to live.” It’s terribly true, and I love that expression. If you were just a stay at home mom doing no other side hustles, others would totally judge you too. You wouldn’t win.

      I’ve definitely taken quite a few ‘hits’ for my liberal arts education…and even my MLIS degree. Plus, I majored in English and History. I’m the trifecta of criticism. People are always going to think what they want. Sometimes you can change their opinion through actions, but many times you can’t. I agree. Just be you, be a good person, and do your best. You cannot control others or their perceptions, but you can control your life.

      I have to update this post a tad too. I had a pin that I made long ago before I got into the blogging grove that is now circulating. This comment was a great reminder to get on that. Thanks!

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